I have had a rough few years. The most confronting times of my life to date, I have had times where it has been hard to move forward and function as a relatively normal human being. For the last three years (2015, 2016 & 2017) I have always had a negative happen in my life causing me to collapse into a ball and retreat inside a whirlpool of emotions. To the extent where people have intervened and told me to go to counselling because my mental health was not in the right place.
In 2018, I am going to endeavour to change this negativity into positivity. I know some scenarios happen that are out of my control, but I can change how I react. I have learnt many new ways of controlling my emotions and thoughts, and I would like to give you a few tips on my own experience.
- Change your environment: I lived on a university campus for two years, and I loved it, but the atmosphere was not conducive to my mental health. I was always in a bad mood/ depressed mood, a mood I could not shake off. I went to counselling as well as a psychologist to help me figure out my brain.
- Don’t be scared to seek help: for many years I resisted getting professional help from a counsellor or a psychologist. I thought I was coping well enough with my emotions and thoughts until friends partially forced me into going, and now I regret not going sooner.
- Have good connections: This one can be hard to achieve if you have friends that are not nice or who are two-faced and the people who do not have your best interests at heart. If you have a great circle of friends who you can trust and they can give advice, keep them forever.
- Be yourself: we live in a world where we are shaped by various media and people who believe they know you better than you know yourself, but only you know what goes through your head at night while laying in bed. My advice is, live your authentic self because if you don’t, you will live to regret it.